The sun has now moved into Gate 40, LONELINESS. In the I-Ching this hexagram is called DELIVERANCE.
This is the energy of LONELINESS in all its permutations. Someone with this energy defined certainly needs their alone time. It is quite necessary for their well being and also necessary for their unique process of DELIVERING results.
But they also may feel very LONELY in general which in many cases drives them to reach out to others. This need to connect and resulting efforts to do so never quite shake the sense of LONELINESS however. So this energy may find themselves focusing on the lack of connection rather than the actual connection, often feeling the most LONELY with the people they love. No matter how much attention and love they get, they will feel ALONE.
It is easy to blame others for this feeling. The reasoning being "If this person really did care about me I wouldn't still feel so ALONE." Awareness is key. If you have this energy and are aware that this is simply who you are and not the direct result of someone else's behavior you can better appreciate the people in your life who really do in fact love you.
So If you are celebrating your birthday this week, give this some thought. It is OK to feel LONELY. It is a fundamental part of who you are. In your ALONENESS you are able to process and DELIVER amazing results in this world. Other people cannot make you feel any different for any length of time and it is not their fault. But DO continue to reach out and connect with them. This is also a fundamental part of who you are.
It is in the seeking that transformation happens for all parties involved.
How does LONELINESS play a part in your life? Do you avoid being ALONE at all costs? Why? Do you love being ALONE? Do you believe someone when they tell you and show you they care? Why not? Would you not want to join the club that would have you as it's member? Why? Would it be possible to give the people in your life the benefit of the doubt and actually trust that they care?
This is also a truly wonderful period to take some time to yourself and self reflect. Revel in being ALONE.