From February 8 through February 13 the Sun is in the Gate 49, REVOLUTION or PRINCIPLES. In the I-Ching this hexagram is called REVOLUTION.

This is the energy to determine the PRINCIPLES of intimacy and if those PRINCIPLES are crossed, the result will be a REVOLUTION. Gate 49 is part of the Channel of LOVE & MARRIAGE and it is indeed wonderful energy for marriage if, and that is a big if, each partner holds up their end of the PRINCIPLES defined in the relationship.

Someone with this energy defined takes their vows very seriously. So seriously in fact if their partner fails to keep those vows, they will walk away from the relationship without a second thought. Hence the term REVOLUTION. This is why this gate is also lovingly called the DIVORCE gate. Keep in mind, often once the REVOLUTIONARY act has taken place, there is no turning back.

If you have this energy defined or if someone you love has this energy defined, it is imperative that the PRINCIPLES of the relationship are clearly defined and that both partners fully understand the terms. Do both parties understand the ramifications if these PRINCIPLES are not kept?

I suppose it is healthy after this period of intimacy shared while the sun transited in Gate 19 and in Gate 13 that strong boundaries and PRINCIPLES are now determined for the relationship. Now is the time for determining the terms of what is acceptable and not acceptable in order to maintain the wonderful trust and intimacy that has been established.

Have you established clear PRINCIPLES for your relationships? What is acceptable behavior for you and what is not? What are the deal breakers? Do you effectively communicate these terms to your loved ones? Does your partner seem baffled when you are fed up with their actions? Do you find yourself in trouble with your loved ones and you are not clear why? What PRINCIPLES have you crossed? Have you asked them?

If you have a history of suddenly walking away from important relationships you might find it helpful to take stock. How clear were you with your expectations? Did they have any clue? After all, no game is fair unless everyone knows the rules.

But if they did know the rules, all’s fair. Walking away is indeed a REVOLUTIONARY act of self care.